Minno has been after me since the last 1 week now. She does not like that I attend the namaaz at the markaz and sit in the bayaans or have the niyaaz there. She has been calling me a fanatic and so has her mom.
But I only go for the namaaz in Ramzaan. After that I am alwayz at home with her and zahra. She keeps telling me that I am an unsuccessful person and a failure bcoz I don't have a job abroad and am not settled abroad. But I have a good job here and I have tried to give her all the luxuries that I can afford.
She has started hating my parents and sister. Today morning she crossed all limits and said that "its good that my parents are in Saudi otherwise it would have been another headache for her if they would have been here". I pray to God to give her good sense someday and realize what she has been doing. Have been under a lot of mental stress lately because of her and her nagging.
I wish she would go away to her parents house and never come back in my life.
She keeps saying that marrying me was a mistake done by her and if she wud have known me better she wud never have married me. She keeps referring to Dr. Muzammil who wanted to marry her but she had rejected him. She now wishes that she had married him.
Anyway I am too tired now to even think about all the abuses that she has hurled on me. I have left my fate in Gods hands and he can do whatever he wishes with my life.
Good bye....................
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Friday, September 7, 2007
The Fight
This is my first attempt at blogging. Today is Sep 7, 2007
My name is Ali. Have been married for the last 4 years. Got a daughter who is an angel.
Yday had 1 more fight with my wife. Things are going from bad to worse and I don't know what I need to do. I have tried to keep my wife as happy as possible but she keeps raising some or the other issue.
She has her own seperate house in one of the best housing socieities. I am staying seperate even though my parents are also living in the same city and area.
Few months back brought a new house. What is the last fight about? I refused to go with her to her parents house as they live in another 3rd world country. Not a good place to go to.... believe me.
So yesterday night she called me names and used the foulest language possible. Also threatened me that she will not behave nicely with my parents and she will never go to their house nor allow my daughter to go to their house. I have never stopped my daughter from seeing her maternal grand-parents.
Infact whenever my wife's parents come here I try to make their stay as comfortable as possible.
Her parents also don't think much about me bcoz I am not rich like them and can't give all kinds of luxuries to my wife.
But she was aware when we got married that I am from a middle class family and she needs to make some adjustments here. Still have tried to give her all the facilities whatever I cud afford.
Yesterday night she has decided that she will take my daughter and go to her parents house and will come back only if I go there and bring her back. She is just as hard-headed like my mother-in-law. Everything has to happen as they wish and if anyone goes against their wishes then all hell breaks loose on the poor person who has opposed them.
Worst is that my wife involved my poor sister also in the fight and she started telling that my sister will never get married and find a life partner because of me. What has my sister done? Infact she has always helped my wife whenever she has needed help. Is this the way you speak for those who have helped you?
Sometimes I feel that she is right... bcoz I married her and brought her in my family everyone has suffered
So what else did she tell me yesterday night ..... dog, dog excreta, loser, liar, etc.
Worst is that she brings my 3 and half year old daughter in the fight. She tries to poison her mind against me and then my daughter feels scared and insecure and starts crying. I wish my wife wud have some mercy on the poor kid and not involve her in the fights.
My daughter and I are extremely attached to each other and I can't even bear to think of getting seperated from my daughter.
Just because of my daughter I am putting up with all these abusive language of my wife.
Still yesterday night I applied ointment and rubbed her ankles as she has pain in them. Also gave her the pain-killers. I wonder how I can still forgive her for all that she said and think about her.
Anywayz no tiffin today also as we r not on speaking terms. Also did not get any breakfast today as got up late and there was no milk in the house.
I hope there is peace tonight when I go back home.
Need to follow up on my wife's long term visa tomorrow as she is a foreigner.
My name is Ali. Have been married for the last 4 years. Got a daughter who is an angel.
Yday had 1 more fight with my wife. Things are going from bad to worse and I don't know what I need to do. I have tried to keep my wife as happy as possible but she keeps raising some or the other issue.
She has her own seperate house in one of the best housing socieities. I am staying seperate even though my parents are also living in the same city and area.
Few months back brought a new house. What is the last fight about? I refused to go with her to her parents house as they live in another 3rd world country. Not a good place to go to.... believe me.
So yesterday night she called me names and used the foulest language possible. Also threatened me that she will not behave nicely with my parents and she will never go to their house nor allow my daughter to go to their house. I have never stopped my daughter from seeing her maternal grand-parents.
Infact whenever my wife's parents come here I try to make their stay as comfortable as possible.
Her parents also don't think much about me bcoz I am not rich like them and can't give all kinds of luxuries to my wife.
But she was aware when we got married that I am from a middle class family and she needs to make some adjustments here. Still have tried to give her all the facilities whatever I cud afford.
Yesterday night she has decided that she will take my daughter and go to her parents house and will come back only if I go there and bring her back. She is just as hard-headed like my mother-in-law. Everything has to happen as they wish and if anyone goes against their wishes then all hell breaks loose on the poor person who has opposed them.
Worst is that my wife involved my poor sister also in the fight and she started telling that my sister will never get married and find a life partner because of me. What has my sister done? Infact she has always helped my wife whenever she has needed help. Is this the way you speak for those who have helped you?
Sometimes I feel that she is right... bcoz I married her and brought her in my family everyone has suffered
So what else did she tell me yesterday night ..... dog, dog excreta, loser, liar, etc.
Worst is that she brings my 3 and half year old daughter in the fight. She tries to poison her mind against me and then my daughter feels scared and insecure and starts crying. I wish my wife wud have some mercy on the poor kid and not involve her in the fights.
My daughter and I are extremely attached to each other and I can't even bear to think of getting seperated from my daughter.
Just because of my daughter I am putting up with all these abusive language of my wife.
Still yesterday night I applied ointment and rubbed her ankles as she has pain in them. Also gave her the pain-killers. I wonder how I can still forgive her for all that she said and think about her.
Anywayz no tiffin today also as we r not on speaking terms. Also did not get any breakfast today as got up late and there was no milk in the house.
I hope there is peace tonight when I go back home.
Need to follow up on my wife's long term visa tomorrow as she is a foreigner.
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